Ever feel stuck?
You want your ministry to grow and you are turning your wheels in prayer, effort, sweat and tears. But you just don’t see or know what to do.
I’ve been there. In fact, it was when a ministry I was a part of was growing and healthy. I had taken steps, specifically the vision and mission of our ministry, to fully communicate why we existed and volunteers and parents understood and were on board. We were growing in attendance for the 3 previous years. Our volunteer base was healthy and we had “enough” people not only to get by but see kids really cared for and invested in.
But something was off. I was exhausted, I felt pressured to continue to come up with highly successful big things. I felt like I should be doing more instead of less. I wanted to find ways to continue to grow the ministry but I continued to feel inadequate.
Not to mention I was not exercising and taking care of my health. I just had a kid and was feeling overwhelmed in every area of my life.
I knew something had to change, but I didn’t know what needed to change or how to do it.
So I talked with my boss and let him know I couldn’t keep up and I needed to change some things. He said, duh! Of course you do. I didn’t know what he was talking about, he knew that I needed change to and that I needed to figure it out.
So I spent some more time praying and eventually talked with Brother Jim about leadership.
Jim has been doing a program called Infuse for a long time. It’s a coaching program where you get one on one time with one of the great ministry minds out there. I asked so many questions and read all his books to finally figure out the answer and solution to my problem, was not doing more or really even doing it differently. It was doing less.
I needed to give more away in order to keep up with the growing responsibilities of a family and a growing ministry.
I don’t know where you are in the midst of your ministry life. I don’t know that giving away more responsibility is what you need to hear. But I do want you to hear one thing:
Asking questions of someone that has been there before matters. It’s why I think that everyone should ask their church to front the cost for a program like Infuse.
I cannot tell you what it’s done for me and my ministry but also for my marriage and my parenting.
I had to evaluate myself on a lot of different areas in an exercise we were doing and I asked my wife for some help. Here’s what she said, and it’s been one of the most encouraging things I’ve ever heard in my life.
She said, “Are you supposed to be grading yourself overall or just the change in the last year. Because if it’s based on the change from last year, I’d give you A’s in every area!”
This is why I’m pursuing some ways to get into coaching. It’s why I look forward to hearing questions from folks and helping them process through some things to see personal growth.
My advice, get a coach or a mentor. If you don’t know where to look, start with Infuse. It’s been incredible for my life and ministry.
I particularly want to say thank you to Brother Jim, Sam Luce, and Mrs. Julie. I’ve learned so much and felt loved by each of you.
Thanks for investing in someone who is young and doesn’t really know what he’s doing. Thanks for taking the time to listen and speak.
My life has been forever changed.